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| Parenting Gifted Kids: Tips for Raising Happy And Successful Children | 
 enlarge | Author: James R. Delisle
Publisher: Prufrock Press
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  (5 reviews)
Sales Rank: 108144
Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 213
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.7
Dimensions (in): 7.9 x 5.3 x 0.7
ISBN: 1593631790
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.155
EAN: 9781593631796
ASIN: 1593631790
Publication Date: April 1, 2006
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Product Description
Parenting Gifted Kids: Tips for Raising Happy and Successful Children provides a humorous, engaging, and encouraging look at raising gifted children today. Jim Delisle, Ph.D., offers practical, down-to-earth advice that will cause parents to reexamine the ways they perceive and relate to their children.
Delisle puts forth 10 "tips" to parents of gifted children?ideas that reflect attitude and approach and allow for introspection and change, rather than quick, do-it-tonight solutions. Some topics of interest include understanding a child's giftedness, working with the school system, dealing with perfectionism in gifted kids, and being adult role models for children. Along the way, stories from gifted children and their parents provide insight into the lives of these individuals.
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 Help your child be happy: read this and "THE DRAMA OF THE GIFTED CHILD" December 5, 2008
As a gifted child, I wish my parents had not understood me as gifted, but understood why I loved being the best at everything, i.e. why it was so important for me, and why I was losing my childhood to it. Not that it is bad to be the best, but it doesn't make our children happy. I wish my parents had helped me break the deep feeling (and illusion) that I was loved when others acknowledged my being gifted...which inevitably came with the deep feeling of doubt about whether I was loved when I was not great. I wish they had helped me relax, made me feel loved unconditionally, helped me find out what "I" liked and focus on that, and most importantly, stop the emotionally empty pursuit of continuing to be "the gifted child", stop looking for the excitement of compliments as an illusion of love. Feeling unconditionally loved by your parents is feeling that you can be ordinary at something, or that if you don't like that game you don't have to play it and if you play it, you can be ordinary at it (invest less time and focus on having fun rather than being "great"), and still know for sure, deeply, without having to test it, that your parents will always love you anyway. If your child is almost always great, by definition he/she does not feel/know for sure that you love him/her unconditionally.
As parents, it is our responsibility to help our child be happy, rather than extraordinary. When your child is gifted and extraordinary, the best you can offer is not encourage him/her to be great (he/she's already doing that) but rather 1) for you to gain the insight of why he/she feels it is so important to be the best at everything, why he or she invests so much emotional energy in getting your and other people's compliments, and 2) help him/her feel loved unconditionally, that it is perfectly fine to be ordinary at some things, by expressing your love "especially" when he or she is ordinary--that is when you should express the most love to your child--to tame his/her deep-rooted emotional illusion that compliments = love, because of what it also means in his/her heart: that no compliments = no love. Read this book and especially "the Drama of the Gifted Child", so you truly help your child, so he/she doesn't have to read the book in 10 to 20 years and has to mourn the loss of his/her childhood to being "gifted".
original approach March 6, 2008
9 out of 9 found this review helpful
How happy I was to get a new perspective on the gifted parenting issue. Instead of a book merely listing the characteristics of gifted kids and the problems they face, this offered some new points. The included "Gifted Children Speak Out" section at the end of every chapter was very insightful and put everything I was reading in perspective; all the advice in the world can't substitute for honest feelings given directly from the children themselves. I also really enjoyed the chapter on giftedness in adults. It was helpful both as a way for the reader to reflect on and remember his or her own gifted childhood, and as a reminder that our children are going to grow up, with characteristics that continue to affect them in adult life. Finally, the resource section at the back was full of schools, journals, web sites and other places to find additional information and support. Overall, a very thourough and insightful book.
 Fantastic! February 20, 2008
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
This completely explained my child. Thank you for helping me to understand her and how her mind works. This is the beginning to parenting my child the way she needs.
Highly recommended for parents of gifted (and very bright) kids April 23, 2007
11 out of 11 found this review helpful
Not really the book that I have expected, but it ended up being better than I expected.
The author analyzes different types of giftedness, gives many real life examples and quotes, talks about gifted adults - something that I haven't encountered yet in this type of literature - and in general helps to change your general attitude towards giftedness. For me, the attitude change (not "ten tips..."!) is the factor that makes easier to deal with many related to giftedness issues (academic, social, emotional). Just two examples of what turned out to be really helpful for me:
- list of phrases that most of us use all the time with gifted kids, but that should be avoided ("You are so smart, I expected better from you" - this is my favourite - unfortunately!)
- reference to couple of books "Philosophy for kids" and advice how to deal with questions of this type (again, how do YOU answer the question "Why does God allow murder?" from 6-years old?)
Highly recommended for all parents of gifted kids - and even more, for parents who are not sure whether their kids are gifted.
Highly recommended reading, especially to all new parents of a gifted child May 4, 2006
16 out of 16 found this review helpful
Parenting Gifted Kids: Tips For Raising Happy And Successful Children by James R. Delisle (Professor of Gifted Education at Kent State University) is an informative and "parent friendly" reference for enabling a truly gifted child to expressively and productively achieve their life goals, develop sound character, and general enjoy their life. Examining overly excitable children, the type of gift granted to each child, working with the school system, dealing with perfectionist children, being a positive role model, building a child's character, and helping kids achieve their set goals and dreams, Parenting Gifted Kids is very highly recommended reading, especially to all new parents of a gifted child.
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